Thursday, April 15, 2010
“Foster Kid” Label
I am a big Grey’s Anatomy fan. It is my guilty pleasure. I just recently watched the April 1st show (from my DVR) and got a little miffed, though. You know the one, Alex’s brother shows up unexpectedly.
Well he starts telling everyone about their childhood and Alex’s past. Then it happened. “Alex was a foster kid?” “So he was a foster kid.”
Foster kid, foster kid, foster kid.
Every time they said it, they said it in a different tone. I don’t know how to really take it.
Children that are in the foster care system have had trauma in their lives in some way. These children do need some extra attention, compassion, and nurturing. They are faced with many challenges. It is not the children’s fault they are in the foster care system.
There is some kind of stigma about foster kids. A child that needs a loving home to live in while their parents get their lives straightened out is a child in need. A child in need. Period. Most people have no idea what things these children have been exposed to.
They did not ask for things to happen to them or to their families. They did not ask to be taken from their homes. They did not asked to be taken from the only people they have ever known. They did not ask to be put with strangers. And they definitely did not ask to be labeled so dismissively.
Is this what my future child has to look forward to? We are in the process of adopting through the foster care system. Will my future child be labeled like this?
I hope not. Because this mom will fight for her children…all of them.
I have no idea what this post is supposed to do about it, but I feel better just getting out my frustrations. Thank you for sticking with me as I rant.
The future mom of a “foster kid”